Grumpy Middle Aged Woman Slaps Blog Readers


I want to slap teenage boys whose pants are hanging so low their Bonds undies are inflated around their hips like a blow fish under attack.

I want to slap women with eyebrows that look like they’ve been drawn on by Picasso with a brown Disney felt pen.

I want to slap people who say (with a face like a prune), “You know those child sponsor charities just spend all your money on administration and nice cars”.

Seriously, I’m middle aged, grumpy and tired of bullpoo.

I wont actually slap anyone because I hate violence but I admit I do have to suppress the urge that bubbles up in me.

The older you get, the more real you get. Your tolerance for shallowness, cynicism, and botox infused selfies runs to zero. You think more about an authentic life. You think more about a meaningful death.

And so I have been thinking about what I’d like written on my grave stone.

Wife, Mother, Sponsor.

Sound schmaltzy? Really, does sponsor deserve to be in the same line as wife and mother?

Yep! I believe it is as profound.

Is this where you switch off because this blog is another one of thousands of pleas for sponsorship?

If you are about to switch off, just come closer for one minute.

SLAP! You deserve a slap! (metaphorically speaking off course)

Or as we call it in church circles, the laying on of hands till you are healed of the stupid.

Aggressive much – you bet! Ungracious – probably!

But I’m over 50 now and just don’t care if I upset your comfort with poverty. I’m tired of politeness being a barrier to desperate need. Your discomfort and offense don’t come close to feelings of despair and aching hunger that children in this world are experiencing as you read this.

I know, I’ve been to Cambodia in places poor beyond imagination.  The changes sponsorship bring is mind-blowingly fabulous. I’m frustrated because I cannot adequately describe the radical change it brings. Unless you’ve seen it first hand you can’t really grasp how incredible it is. You know I’m totally over bullpoo now – so trust me, I’m telling you straight, child sponsorship works, its a tangible miracle.

Sponsoring a child leaves a legacy beyond your life time and more profound than your life time. What the heck is life about if its not about profound legacy?

I know we all get weary of hearing about the overwhelming pain of those suffering in the third world.

Temporary weariness I can do, but I never ever want to become familiar, inoculated and comfortable with suffering.

I never want to say I’ve done enough. God help me if that is what could be written on my grave stone: “Elissa – she was nice and helpful but put a limit on compassion”. No way!


Indulge me as I share one of the most significant moments of my life- tombstone worthy.

When my eighteen year old son was on his gap year he worked casually at KFC. He mentioned a sponsorship charity to me and asked, “Mum, they’re legit right? They’re good right?”

“You bet son, why?”

“I just started sponsoring a little girl in Asia with them”.

I stopped for a moment. A mummy moment. My teenage boy, off his own volition, from his basic wage, CHOSE to take the time, to take the money, to make the life altering bigger-than-he-gets-right-now decision to sponsor a child.

“Wow, mate, that’s awesome. Is that working out OK because you aren’t really on a decent wage yet?”

Then he schooled me” “Mum, I’m your son. You always said that once you have a job you have a responsibility to share that with those who don’t have what you’ve got. I’ve got water, I’ve got a flat. I’ve got two minute noodles, I’ve got a phone – I’m good.”

Put that on my friggin’ grave stone people! (The first sentence, not the two minute noodle thing.)

I could stop this blog now at this feel good moment. But I’m throwing this “writing on your tombstone” moment back at you. Let’s get very, very real for a moment.

What do you want? Who do you want to be? What do you want your legacy to be?

I pray it’s sponsorship. Sponsorship prevents poverty, sponsorship prevents deathly disease, sponsorship prevents child marriages. Sponsorship’s bring hope. Sponsorship brings positive change. Sponsorship brings joy. Click on this link if you want to see it in action:

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If you want to sponsor a child, I highly recommend, like super dooper endorse Baptist World Aid as an agency. I traveled with them to Cambodia and was left humbled by their compassion, integrity, intelligence and the dignity afforded to the children with which they partner. They are an incredibly honest, effective and honorable organization.

Press on this link below and sponsor one of their beautiful children, literally change a community and make your own life more meaningful.

To make your life more meaningful and beautiful click here:

Bless you and I promise to stop slapping you (metaphorically speaking).

by Elissa Macpherson

author, speaker, unashamedbly pushy about justice, wife, mother, sponsor

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The Christian “F” Bomb- Fem!n#sm!

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My friend and I just finished speaking at a conference when a woman approached. She said, “I really enjoyed that, except when your friend said Jesus was a feminist – there is no way He was a feminist!”

I replied that I disagreed. I explained that a feminist is a person who advocates for the equal opportunity and rights regardless of gender, and I believed Jesus embodied that in his life.

She earnestly looked at me and said, “But if you really knew what a feminist was you would not agree”.

I continued. “Well, what kind of feminist do you mean? Marxist feminist, lipstick feminist, liberal feminist, radical feminist?”

She looked at me as if I was talking gibberish and said, “You know – a real feminist!”

I realized we were talking about a single topic but coming from two very different places.

If feminism was the elephant in the room, I was pulling the tusk and she was pulling the tail.

I assume her definition of a feminist was an aggressive, man hating, abortion promoting, militant left-wing, scary woman with studded wristbands and army boots as weapons. In which case, I agree, I don’t think Jesus would have been this kind of feminist.

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This conversation showed me that any discussion about gender equality in Christian circles can be fraught with emotional bombs.

Step the wrong way with semantics and watch an explosion of anger and passion blow up. It’s a minefield of mixed definitions and a powder keg of perceptions and paradigms.

There are as many forms of feminism as there as many forms of Christianity.  To make broad sweeping statements about feminism would be like saying all Christians are rosary bead praying, tongue speaking, conservative voting, Calvinistic, tee-totaling, gun toting, homophobic, party poopers.

Diverse Forms of Feminism

In the same way, we can lump all feminists in the same box. Yet there are many different types of feminism. Different types include:

Socialist feminism which is influenced by Marxist ideology.

Liberal feminism seeks equality through political and legal reform.

Black feminism argues sexism, class oppression and racism are bound together.

French feminism pursues equality through literary and philosophical efforts.

Radical feminism want to dismantle the entire system because it is patriarchal.

This list is in no way exhaustive. They take different approaches and emphasize different underlying philosophies.

Diversity of  Leaders of the Feminist Movement

Even major leaders in the feminist movement are not homogeneous. If they were all at a dinner party together I’m sure the evening would end in loud and fervent debate. Imagine trying to form a cohesive group from this bullet list of prominent feminists.

-Mary Wollstonecraft:  1700’s, author of “The Vindication of the Rights of Women”,  philosopher, liberal, deist/Unitarian

-Catherine Booth: 1800’s, co-founder of the Salvation Army, fought for safe working conditions for women and children, Christian preacher

-Emmeline Pankhurst: early 1900’s, fought for the right to vote including using violent protests such as bombing churches

-Betty Friedan: wrote the “Feminine Mystique” in 1963, writer, journalist, Marxist Zionist Jew

-Germaine Greer: wrote “The Female Eunuch” in 1970, writer and academic, Catholic atheist and anarchist

-Naomi Wolf: wrote “The Beauty Myth” in 1990 author, journalist, Pulitzer prize winner, political adviser to Al Gore and Bill Clinton, liberal progressive.

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Here is another one for the list: Jesus Christ: 1st century, Jewish Rabbi, son of God, dismantled gender barriers by teaching and debating theology with women despite this being prohibited (John 4:19-25, Luke 10:39), fought for Judeo-legal rights of an alleged adulterous women (Luke 8:1-11), economically supported by women (Luke 8:3), took women as part of his mission team (Luke 8:1-2), interacted intimately with women regardless of race (John 4:27), promoted women as role models for faith and wisdom (Queen Sheba Matthew 12:42, Matthew 26;13).

Reading the above list of Jesus`s gender barrier breaking behaviours could we then define Jesus as a feminist? This would depend on how we define feminism.

How do we take a range of ideologies and synergise them into one simple defining statement? Perhaps in the same way Catholics, Protestants, Pentecostals, Evangelicals, Orthodox Christians could unify under the simple statement of belief,  that is: Jesus is God, that he died on the cross for our sins and he was resurrected from the dead so we can live eternally.

In the same way we then could pull together different schools of ideology and simply define feminism as a term, “used to describe a political, cultural or economic movement aimed at establishing equal rights and legal protection for women” (1).

Given this definition, I believe issues such as trafficking women and girls, domestic violence, preventing child marriages, exploitation of women in media and the full releasing of spiritual gifts in women would be high on the Christian feminist agenda.

Here is another interesting definition of feminism with a Christian bias. In 1914, The New York Times published this definition by women’s suffrage activist Carrie Chapman Catt:

“What is feminism? A world-wide revolt against all artificial barriers which laws and customs interpose between women and human freedom. It is born of the instinct within every natural woman’s soul that God designed her as the equal, co-worker, the comrade of the men of her family, and not as their slave, or servant, or dependent, or plaything”. (2)

I wonder if Jesus may define Christian feminism as something like this: Women are my sisters, my daughters. Love them as I do. They are made in my image. Treat them as you would treat me.

This definition, if fully embraced in action, would be a bomb of love that would blow apart gender injustice.

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By Elissa Macpherson: author, speaker, Jesus lover, injustice hater, coffee drinking, sequin wearing, beauty embracing God gurl

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Cómo tienen las mujeres un Dia Internacional.



El 8 de Marzo, FaceBook estaba lleno de publicaciones de la celebración del Día Mundial de la Mujer. Pero de vez en cuando aparecía una publicación diferente, comentarios con una dejo enojón, preguntando esto-

Porque lo hombres no tienen el Día Internacional del Hombre?

Esta es una buena pregunta. ¿Por qué es un día que fomenta la igualdad de género? ¿Parece que los hombres son tratados de manera desigual? Creo que hay una razón sólida: porque un niño no morirá cuando nazca porque es un niño. Porque 100 millones de niños no están “desaparecidos” del planeta (1). Porque la imagen de abajo es una madre, explicando en la película “It’s A Girl”, por qué estranguló a sus ocho hijas al nacer y las enterró en su jardín trasero en la India rural. Ella las mató porque nacieron niñas y ella quiere, no necesita, un niño.

La estrangule despues que nació

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Porque incluso si ganó la lotería de nacimiento y no nació en un país del tercer mundo, las mujeres experimentan la vida de manera diferente a los hombres. Porque cada dos días es el Día Internacional de los Hombres. El Día Internacional de la Mujer es el único día del año en que las mujeres son el centro de atención. Cada dos días, los hombres son el foco.

Cada dos días los hombres los hombres tienen mayor representación política.

Desde enero 2017, solo 18.3 por ciento de los ministerios del gobierno en todo el mundo eran mujeres. A la fecha de junio de 2016, solo el 22,8% de todos los parlamentarios nacionales eran mujeres (2). Los hombres tienen una mayor voz política.

Cada dos días los hombres los hombres tienen mayor representación en negocios.

En Australia, los hombres tienen el 74.8% de todas las posiciones de la junta, a pesar de que las empresas con la capitalización de mercado más grande tienen la mayor proporción de mujeres miembros de la junta (3). En 2015, las mujeres ocuparon el 17.9% de los puestos de la junta en las compañías Fortune 1000 (4). Los hombres tienen más poder económico.

Cada dos días los hombres tienen la mayoría de voz en los medios sociales.

En Australia, la proporción de sala de redacción es de 70:30 reporteros de hombre a mujer (5). En 2017, las mujeres representaron apenas el 18% de los directores, escritores, productores, productores ejecutivos, editores y cineastas que trabajan en las 250 películas más taquilleras (6). Los medios están dominados por un punto de vista masculino.

Cada dos días los hombres dominan la tecnología.

En los U.S las mujeres forman el 51% de los trabajadores. Pero, solamente 29% de los trabajadores de Microsoft son mujeres, 31% en Facebook, y 30% en Apple y Google (7). Las mujeres tienen 11% de las posiciones ejecutivas en las Compañías Silicon Valley (8). Los hombres son factores dominantes en la tecnología.
Los hombres todavía dominan la política, negocios, media y la tecnología- las principales fuerzas en nuestra sociedad. En todo el mundo, los hombres dominan las principales áreas de poder e influencia. Incluso si son hombres que apoyan la igualdad de género y hacen activamente su parte para cambiar la discriminación de género, no son mujeres. No experimentan el mundo como una mujer.

Las Mujeres experimentan la vida de diferente forma.


Cada dos días 1 en 3 mujeres alrededor del mundo experimentan abuso sexual y violencia (9).

Cada dos días los hombres no están tratando con Harvey Weinstein o Don Burke de su mundo. Demasiadas mujeres sufren acoso y agresiones sexuales en su lugar de trabajo y en su hogar. Las investigaciones nos dicen que, “en promedio, una mujer a la semana es asesinada por su pareja actual o anterior, según el análisis más reciente de las estadísticas de homicidios en Australia” (10).

Cada dos días niñas y mujeres son más propensas a ser analfabetas y tienen niveles de educación más bajos.

A nivel mundial, 65 millones de niñas no asisten a la escuela (11). Hay 33 millones menos de niñas que niños en la escuela primaria (11). Casi dos tercios de los adultos analfabetos del mundo son mujeres (12). A pesar de que los estudios relacionan repetidamente el aumento de la educación de las niñas con el aumento de la calidad de vida no solo para las mujeres, sino para comunidades enteras (13).

Cada dos días las mujeres tienen menor paga que los hombres (14).

Dave Hughes, celebridad radiofónica popular de Melbourne, sufrió un recorte salarial como protesta cuando descubrió que su compañero en el aire, Kate Langbroek, recibió un 40% menos que él por EXACTAMENTE EL MISMO TRABAJO (15).

Cada dos días son acusadas de fastidiar y de hablar demasiado.

Aunque, en realidad, las mujeres saben que los hombres dominarán las conversaciones. La revista New York Times informa que, “los estudios académicos y las innumerables anécdotas dejan en claro que ser interrumpido, hablado, despedido o penalizado por hablar es casi una experiencia universal para las mujeres cuando son superadas en número por los hombres” (16).

Cada dos días las mujeres saben que su valor esta medido por su apariencia.

La mayoría de los cirujanos plásticos son hombres, muchos de sus pacientes son mujeres. En Australia, las mujeres pagarán más del doble de lo que los hombres pagan por el arreglo personal (17). El 13% de las mujeres mayores de 50 años participan en conductas de trastorno alimentario (18). Como dijo un periodista, “las mujeres están condicionadas, desde una edad temprana, a comprender que su apariencia es su moneda” (17).

Cada dos días, bebes niñas son matadas por ser niñas.

En Junio 2015 un padre Pakistaní mato a sus tres hijas. Explico que no quería gastar dinero educando a sus hijas (19). Mas niñas y mujeres han muerto en el pasado siglo 20 más que todos los hombres que murieron en las grandes batallas del siglo 20 simplemente por haber nacido mujer (20).

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Estas mujeres no murieron en una batalla ellas murieron al nacer, en el útero, abandonadas al nacer o asesinadas mientras hacían su vida diaria, asesinados SIMPLEMENTE PORQUE SON UNA MUJER.

En mi opinión, esta es una razón singularmente valiosa para celebrar el Día Internacional de la Mujer

Desde la introducción de la política de un solo hijo en 1979 en China, más de 30 millones de niñas han sido abortadas, asesinadas o abandonadas de forma selectiva. Deje que ese número se hunda en 30 millones (21). 30 millones de hijas, 30 millones de hermanas, 30 millones de potenciales científicos, autores, doctores, maestros, inventores. Son asesinadas por ninguna otra razón que las niñas se consideran una carga y porque las niñas tienen menos valor.

Algún país en el mundo tiene más de 30 millones de varones desaparecidos, asesinados simplemente porque eran niños?

Si hay, entonces, por supuesto, abogue por un Día Internacional del Hombre.

Pero no lo veo. Por favor, no me malinterpreten, solo porque defiendo el Día Internacional de la Mujer no significa que sea alguien que odia al hombre. Creo que los hombres son increíbles, creo que son tan fantásticos que incluso me casé con uno. Tengo dos hijos increíbles. Son humanos increíbles. No culpo a los hombres, creo que los buenos hombres son parte de la solución. Sé que los hombres tienen sus propias luchas. Sé que los hombres son más propensos a suicidarse y terminan en la cárcel. Sé que los niños serán secuestrados para ser niños soldados. Eso está más allá de lo trágico y devastador. Estos son problemas que merecen una gran atención y soluciones audaces.

Pero las palabras “Es un niño” simplemente no tienen el mismo efecto devastador en todo el mundo que “Es una niña”. Las Naciones Unidas han estimado que hasta 100 millones de mujeres están “desaparecidas”, sus vidas se consideran inútiles porque nacieron como niñas (22).

Esta es la razón por la que necesitamos un Día Internacional de la Mujer.

Para elevar el valor y la dignidad de las mujeres hasta que no sean asesinadas por ser una niña. Hasta que no les paguen menos, no les silencien menos, que representan más, la respeten más por ser mujer.

Por Elissa Macpherson
Conferencista, autor, bebedora de café, decidida y femenina, Amante de Jesús

las 3 palabras más mortales en el mundo… Es Una Nina

Imágenes de “Es Una Niña” es un película que cuenta historias detrás del homicidio por genero.

Traducido por: Lily Muir Misionera en Bolivia

How Come Women Get An International Day?




On March 8, Face Book was full of posts celebrating International Women’s Day. But every now and then a different sort of post popped up, posts with a grumpy vibe, asking this-

Why don’t men get an International Men’s Day?

This is a good question. Why is it on a day that encourages gender equality do men seem to get treated unequally?

I believe there is a solid reason: Because a boy child will not be killed when he is born because he is boy. Because 100 million boys aren’t “missing” from the planet (1).

Because the image below is a mother, explaining in the film “It’s A Girl”, why she strangled her eight baby daughters at birth and buried them in her back garden in rural India. She killed them because they were born girls and she wants, no needs, a boy.

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Because even if you won the birth lottery and weren’t born in a third world country, women experience life differently from men.

Because on every other day it is International Men’s Day. International Women’s Day is the one day of the year that women are the focus. On every other day, men are the focus.

On every other day men have a greater political representation.

As of January 2017, only 18.3 per cent of government ministers globally were women. Only 22.8 per cent of all national parliamentarians globally were women as of June 2016 (2). Men have a greater political voice.

On every other day men have a  greater representation in business.

In Australia, men hold 74.8% of all board positions even though the companies with the largest market capitalization have the highest proportion of female board members (3).  In 2015, women held 17.9% of the board seats on Fortune 1000 companies (4). Men have more power economically.

On every other day men are the major voice in the media.

In Australia, the newsroom ratio is 70:30 male-to-female reporters (5). In 2017 women accounted for just  18% of directors, writers, producers, executive producers, editors, and cinematographers working on the top 250 grossing films (6). The media is dominated by a male point of view.

On every other day men dominate technology.

In the U.S women make up 51% of the work force. However, only 29% of Microsoft’s employees are women, 31% at Face Book, and 30% at Apple and Google (7). Women only hold 11% of executive positions in Silicon Valley Companies (8). Men are the dominant drivers of technology.

Men still dominate politics, business, media and technology- the major forces in our society. Across the world men dominate major areas of power and influence. Even if they are men who support gender equality and actively do their part to change gender discrimination- they are not women. They do not experience the world as a woman.

Women experience life differently.



On every other day 1 in 3 women across the globe experience sexual abuse and violence (9).

On every other day men are not dealing with the Harvey Weinstein’s or Don Burke’s of their world.  Too many women experience sexual harassment and assault in their workplace and in their home. Research tells us that, “On average, one woman a week is murdered by her current or former partner, according to the most recent analysis of homicide statistics in Australia” (10).

On every other day girls and women are more likely to be illiterate and have lower levels of education.

Globally, 65 million girls are not attending school (11). There are 33 million fewer girls than boys in primary school (11). Nearly two-thirds of the world’s illiterate adults are women (12). Even though studies repeatedly link the increased education of girls with the increase in quality of life not just for women but for whole communities (13).

On every other day women are paid less than men (14).

Popular Melbourne based radio celebrity Dave Hughes took a pay cut as a protest when he discovered his on air partner, Kate Langbroek was bring paid 40% less than him for EXACTLY THE SAME JOB  (15).

On every other day women are accused of being nags and talking too much.

Yet, in reality women know men will dominate conversations.  The New York Times reports that, “Academic studies and countless anecdotes make it clear that being interrupted, talked over, shut down or penalized for speaking out is nearly a universal experience for women when they are outnumbered by men” (16).

On every other day women knows her worth is measured by her appearance.

Most plastic surgeons are men, most of their patients are women.  In Australia, women will pay over double what men pay on personal grooming (17). 13% of women over 50 engage in eating disorder behaviors (18). As one journalist put it, ” Women are conditioned, from a young age, to understand that their appearance is their currency”(17).

On every other day, girl babies are being killed for being a girl.

In June 2015 a Pakistani father killed his three daughters. He explained that he did not want to waste money educating the girls (19). More girls and women have died in the last 20th century than all the men killed in all the major battles of the 20th century simply for being born a girl (20).

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These women were not killed in battle they were killed at birth, in utero, abandoned at birth or killed as they went about their daily life, killed SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY ARE A GIRL.

In my opinion, this is a singularly worthy reason to have International Women’s Day.

Since the introduction of the one child policy in 1979 in China, over 30 million baby girls have been gender selectively aborted, killed or abandoned. Let that number sink in- 30 million (21). 30 million daughter, 30 million sisters, 30 million potential scientists, authors, doctors, teachers, inventors. They are killed for no other reason than girls are considered a burden and because girls have less worth.

Does any country in the world have over 30 million missing males, murdered simply because they were boys? 

If there is, then by all means advocate for an International Men’s Day.

But I don’t see it. Please, do not get me wrong, just because I am advocating for International Women’s Day doesn’t mean I’m a man hater. I think men are amazing, I think they are so fantastic I even married one. I have two amazing sons. They are amazing humans. I don’t blame men, I believe good men are part of the solution. I know men have their own struggles. I know men are more likely to commit suicide and end up in jail. I know boys will be kidnapped to be child soldiers. That is beyond tragic and devastating. These are issues that deserve loud attention and bold solutions.

But the words, “It’s a boy” just don’t have the same devastating effect across the globe as, “It’s a girl”. The United Nations has estimated that up to 100 million females are “missing”, their lives considered worthless because they were born a girl (22).

This is why we need an International Women’s Day. 

To raise the value and dignity of women until they are not murdered for being a girl. Until they are not paid less, silenced less, represented more, respected more for being a woman.

By Elissa Macpherson

Speaker, author, coffee drinker, feisty and feminine, Jesus lover

Image from  “It’s A Girl” is a film telling the stories behind gendercide.


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Queridas mujeres, Porque Te sigo Diciendo Que Tu Eres Hermosa. Con Amor Del ministerio De Mujeres.

Eres hermosa. Lo siento si no lo sientes. Lo siento si no lo crees. Lo siento si no crees que es importante. Pero eres hermosa. Dios lo dijo en Cantar de los Cantares 4: 1, “Eres hermosa, mi amor, hermosa más allá de las palabras”. Este verso es sobre ti.

No importa si no lo sientes. No importa si no lo crees. No importa si no crees que es importante. Este verso es personal. Este versículo está vivo. Este verso es eterno. Es verdad.

Para aquellas que están enojadas con los líderes del ministerio de mujeres que les dicen que son bellas, pongan algo de gracia en mi camino y aguanten.

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Si bien la realidad de tu belleza no es el punto bíblico más importante que puedo hacer, eso no hace que la verdad de tu belleza sea irrelevante. La belleza de Dios y tu belleza no son mutuamente excluyentes. No es un escenario cualquiera. Es parte del paquete grande, delicioso, expansivo, complejo y rico que viene con el regalo de la salvación.

Antes de la salvación eras un pecador, eras fea. Jesús murió por tus pecados. Cuando aceptas la salvación, ya no estás definido por tus pecados feos. Ahora estás definida por Su hermoso amor. Tú eres su hija. Él te ama. Para El eres hermosa.

Para cada mujer con sus inseguridades, sus fracasos, viviendo en su desorden, esto puede ser una noticia liberadora. Es liberador porque es la palabra de Dios, y la palabra de Dios es poderosa. No es un pensamiento positivo. No es un cumplido. No es un líder cristiano animándote. Es verdad. Eterna, invariable, poderosa verdad.

Entonces, ¿por qué luchamos con la verdad de nuestra belleza? Tal vez, hay dos problemas reales que deben aclararse para evitar que nos enojemos.

Primero, como definimos la belleza? Segundo, creemos que la belleza es importante?

Si definimos la belleza por estándares culturales, es decir, su cara y cuerpo se ajustan a las medidas mundanas de atractivo, entonces estamos en problemas. Que te digan que eres culturalmente bella desde la plataforma de la iglesia es tonto. Sé que no soy Gigi Hadid. Ella es una mujer atractiva, gana un salario honesto y trabaja duro, bien por ella.

Pero no me parezco a Gigi Hadid. Y está bien porque Dios no me llama a conformarme a los estándares mundanos sino a anhelar la cultura del Reino. La cultura del Reino tiene una definición de belleza muy diferente.

La cultura del Reino define tu belleza como los portadores de la imagen de un Dios hermoso. Como portadores de la imagen, reflejamos a Dios visiblemente. Reflejamos su amor, libertad, gracia, compasión, alegría, santidad y poder. Cuando expresas estas cualidades con tu cara, con tu cuerpo, con tus palabras, con tus acciones, eres hermosa.

Nuestra belleza es la manifestación del amor de Dios.

La belleza del Reino se define por el amor de Dios. Cuando Dios te mira, siente amor, siente placer, se deleita. Sofonías 3:17 nos dice que Dios se deleita en nosotros con alegría, que se regocija por nosotros con canciones de alegría. Nuestra belleza es la manifestación de este amor infalible, es un reflejo de su gloria en nuestra vida.

La belleza es uno de los ingredientes en la gloria de Dios. La gloria de Dios es una combinación del poder aplastante del planeta, la justicia pura y la belleza esplendorosa. Si disminuimos selectivamente la importancia de uno de esos ingredientes, diluimos la forma en que concebimos la gloria de Dios. La belleza es parte integrante de la gloria de Dios y estamos llamados a ser portadores de su gloria en grados crecientes.


¿Por qué somos llamados a crecer en la gloria de Dios y, por lo tanto, su belleza? Esto nos lleva al segundo tema: ¿es importante la belleza?

La belleza es importante por tanto es poderosa.

La belleza puede crear una respuesta, evocar emoción, inspirar acción, hacer que cambiemos. Estas respuestas, emociones, acciones y cambios pueden ser divinos o destructivos. En las manos del cielo, la belleza tiene poder piadoso.

La belleza tiene el poder de evangelizar.

El padre Barón, teólogo y autor, cree que la belleza es una poderosa herramienta de evangelismo. “Comienza con lo bello, que te conduce a lo bueno, que te conduce a la verdad” (1). En los tiempos posteriores a la modernidad, cuando las ideas de la verdad y la bondad son fluidas, la belleza es un lugar apacible para comenzar una conversación difícil.

La belleza tiene el poder de dar esperanza en la desesperanza.

Encarcelado en un campo de concentración nazi, el Dr. Frankl absorbió intencionalmente la belleza de la naturaleza durante una marcha forzada. Al usar el poder de la belleza, fue capaz de soportar lo insoportable. Cuando una mujer usa la esperanza como expresión de su belleza piadosa, puede dar esperanza a los que no tienen esperanza.

La belleza da valor. En el Salmo 27, David está rodeado de sus enemigos. Es entonces cuando él declara que meditará en la belleza de Dios, este enfoque construye su coraje. Cuando nuestras vidas apuntan a las alegrías y maravillas de la vida, les recordamos a los demás por qué luchamos por lo que es bueno y verdadero.

La belleza divina no se trata de generar cumplidos, se trata de generar esperanza, coraje y alegría. La belleza divina no se trata de tu peso, sino del peso de la gloria de Dios. La belleza divina no se trata de cosméticos, se trata de su creación. La belleza divina no se trata de ser bonita, se trata de poder.

  Satanás mismo conoce el poder de la belleza. Fue el deseo de poseer la belleza de Dios lo que lo corrompió y llevó a su caída (véase Ezequiel 28:17).

Satanás mismo conoce el poder de la belleza. Fue el deseo de poseer la belleza de Dios lo que lo corrompió y llevó a su caída (véase Ezequiel 28:17).

  Satanás mismo sabe del poder de la belleza.  Fue el deseo de poseer la belleza de Dios lo que lo corrompió y llevo a su caída. (Vea Ezequiel 28:17)

Las dictaduras malvadas conocen el poder de la belleza. Uno de los primeros actos de dictadura de Hitler, Mao, Pol Pot y Stalin fueron el de exiliar o ejecutar artistas, músicos y autores. Hitler definió la superioridad como piel blanca, ojos azules y cabello rubio. Los dictadores saben que la belleza totalmente expresada tiene el poder de traer libertad de pensamiento. Entonces la belleza tenía que ser capturada y manipulada para sus propósitos depravados.

El famoso autor y filósofo Dostoevsky dijo, “Lo terrible es que la belleza es misteriosa como terrible. Dios y el diablo están allí y el campo de batalla es el corazón de la humanidad.  

Hay una batalla por la belleza. No se trata solo de dictadores. Para las mujeres, es personal. La belleza no se trata solo de arte, se trata de la anorexia. No se trata solo de música, sino de imágenes retocadas. No se trata solo de poesía, sino de vergüenza corporal. Las definiciones pervertidas de belleza tienen el poder de destruir el cuerpo y el alma de una mujer. Es un ataque personal por lo que Cantar de los Cantares4: 1 debe tomarse personalmente.

Si el ministerio de mujeres  no actúa como un agente para definir la verdadera belleza, la brecha será llenada por la cultura mundana, o mucho peor que eso, será definida por el mal

Satanás conoce el poder de la belleza y no quiere que llegue a manos de los cristianos. Él nos engaña al convencernos de que nuestra belleza es esponjosa, frívola, egoísta. Sí, bueno demonio, no estoy jugando tu juego.

No puedo hablar de mi belleza, sin hablar de Dios.

No puedo expresar mi belleza, sin expresar la belleza de Dios.

No puedo aceptar la belleza sin aceptar a Dios.

La belleza de Dios y mi belleza están inextricablemente conectadas. Mi belleza declara por mi comportamiento, “¡Soy amada por el Rey de Reyes!” Así son las otras mujeres en mi mundo y voy a declararlo en voz alta y públicamente.

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La verdadera belleza no puede separarse de la gloria de Dios. Si los líderes de su ministerio de mujeres se enfocan singularmente en su belleza sin hacer referencia a la gloria de Dios en el curso de su ministerio, entonces tienen un problema. Si es así, sugiero que siga el procedimiento bíblico y que los corrija en privado.

Sin embargo, si sus líderes la están llamando hermosa en el contexto del amor y la gloria de Dios y usted se avergüenza, entonces tal vez, querida mujer, usted debe preguntarse honestamente y humildemente si tiene un problema. Pregúntate si estás aceptando por completo la verdad de su amor por ti, un amor que te hace bella.

Por Elissa Macpherson

conferencista, autora, le encanta el café, festiva y femenina, amante de Jesús.




Dear Women, Why I'll Keep Telling You You're Beautiful, Love From Women's Ministry.

You are beautiful. I’m sorry if you don’t feel it. I’m sorry if you don’t believe it. I’m sorry if you don’t think that it is important. But you are beautiful. God said it. Song of Songs 4:1, “You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words”. This verse is about you.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel it. It doesn’t matter if you don’t believe it. It doesn’t matter if you don’t think it’s important. This verse is personal. This verse is living. This verse is eternal. It is true.

For those who are peeved at women’s ministry leaders who tell them they are beautiful, throw some grace my way and hang in there.


While the reality of your beauty is not the most important Biblical point I can make, that doesn’t make the truth of your beauty irrelevant. God’s beauty and your beauty are not mutually exclusive. It’s not an either-or scenario. It’s part of the big, luscious, expansive, complex, rich package that comes with the gift of salvation.

Before salvation you were a sinner, it was ugly. Jesus died for your sins. When you accept salvation you are no longer defined by your ugly sins. You are now defined by his beautiful love. You are his child. He loves you. To him you are beautiful.

For every woman with her insecurities, her failures, living in her mess, this can be liberating news. It’s liberating because it is the word of God, and the word of God is powerful. It’s not positive thinking. It’s not a compliment. It’s not Christian cheer leading. It’s truth. Eternal, unchanging, powerful truth.

So why do we struggle with the truth of our beauty? Perhaps, there are two real issues that need to be clarified to prevent us getting  peeved off.

First, how do we define beauty? Secondly, do we believe beauty is important?

If we define beauty by cultural standards, that is, your face and body conform to worldly measures of attractiveness then we are in trouble. Being told you are culturally beautiful from the church platform is dumb. I know I’m not Gigi Hadid. She is an attractive woman, she makes an honest wage and works hard, good for her.

But I don’t look like Gigi Hadid. And it is OK because God doesn’t call me to conform to worldly standards but to crave the culture of the Kingdom. Kingdom culture has a very different definition of beauty.

Kingdom culture defines your beauty as image bearers of a beautiful God. As image bearers we reflect God visibly. We reflect his love, liberty, grace, compassion, joy, holiness and power. When you express these qualities with your face, with your body, with your words, with your actions – you are beautiful.

Our beauty is the manifestation of God’s love.

Kingdom beauty is defined by God’s love.  When God looks at you, he feels love, he feels pleasure, he feels delight.  Zephaniah 3:17 tells us that God delights in us with gladness, that he rejoices over us with songs of joy. Our beauty is manifestation of this unfailing love, it is a reflection of his glory in our life.

Beauty is one of the ingredients in God’s glory. God’s glory is a combination of planet crushing power, pure righteousness and splendorous beauty. If we selectively diminish the importance of one of those ingredients, we water down how we conceive God’s glory. Beauty is part and parcel of God’s glory and we are called to become bearers of his glory in increasing degrees.


Why are we called to increase in God’s glory and therefore his beauty?                     This brings us to the second issue- is beauty important?

Beauty is important because it is powerful.

Beauty can create a response, evoke emotion, inspire action, cause us to change. These responses, emotions, actions and changes may be divine or destructive. In the hands of heaven, beauty has godly power.

Beauty has the power to evangelize. Father Baron, a theologian and author, believes beauty is a powerful evangelism tool. “Begin with the beautiful, which leads you to the good, which leads you to the truth”(1). In post modern times when ideas of truth and goodness are fluid, beauty is a gentle place to begin a hard conversation.

Beauty has the power to give hope in the hopeless. Imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp, Dr. Frankl  intentionally absorbed the beauty of nature during a forced march. By using the power of beauty, he was able to endure the unendurable. When a woman wears hope as an expression of her godly beauty, she can give hope to the hopeless.

Beauty gives courage. In Psalm 27 David is surrounded by his enemies. It is then he declares he will meditate on the beauty of God, this focus builds his courage. When our lives point to the joys and wonders of life, we remind others why we fight for what is good and true.

Godly beauty isn’t about generating compliments, it’s about generating hope, courage and joy. Godly beauty isn’t about your weight, its about the weight of God’s glory. Godly beauty isn’t about cosmetics, it’s about his craftsmanship. Godly beauty isn’t about pretty, it’s about power.

Satan himself knows the power of beauty. It was the desire to possess God’s beauty that corrupted him and led to his downfall (see Ezekiel 28:17). 

Evil dictatorships know the power of beauty. One of the first acts of dictatorship by Hitler, Mao, Pol Pot and Stalin was to exile or execute artists, musicians and authors. Hitler defined superiority as white skin, blue eyes and blonde hair. Dictators know beauty fully expressed had the power to bring freedom of thought. So beauty had to be captured and manipulated for their depraved purposes.

The famous author and philosopher Dostoevsky said, “The awful thing is that beauty is mysterious as well as terrible. God and the devil are fighting there and the battlefield is the heart of man.

There is a battle for beauty. It’s not just about dictators. For women, it’s personal. Beauty is not just about art, it’s about anorexia. It’s not just about music, its about airbrushed images. It’s not just about poetry, its about body shame. Perverted definitions of beauty have the power to destroy a woman’s body and soul. It’s a personal attack which is why Songs of Songs 4:1 needs to be taken personally.

If women’s ministry doesn’t act as an agent to define true beauty, the gap will be filled by worldly culture, or worse still it will be defined by evil.

Satan knows the power of beauty and he doesn’t want it to get in the hands of the godly. He deceives us by convincing us our beauty is fluffy, frivolous, egotistical. Yeh, well devil, I’m not playing your game.

I cannot talk about my beauty, without talking about God.

I cannot express my beauty, without expressing God’s love.

I cannot embrace beauty without embracing God.

God’s beauty and my beauty are inextricably connected. My beauty declares by my demeanor, “I am loved by the King of Kings!” So are the other women in my world and I’m going to loudly and publicly declare it.


True beauty cannot be separated from God’s glory.  If your women’s ministry leaders are focusing singularly on your beauty without reference to God’s glory over the course of their ministry, then they have a problem. If so, I suggest you follow Biblical procedure and correct them in private.

However, if your leaders are calling you beautiful within the context of God’s love and glory and you cringe, then perhaps, perhaps, dear woman you need to honestly and humbly ask yourself if you have a problem. Ask yourself if you are fully embracing the truth of his love for you, a love that makes you beautiful.

by Elissa Macpherson

speaker, author, coffee drinker, feisty and feminine, Jesus lover