Why I Don’t Write About Abortion

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I don’t write public posts about abortion on social media.

This sometimes racks me with guilt. I have strong feelings about abortion. Why don’t I speak out?

This blog is not about my opinion on abortion.

This blog is about WHY I don’t write about abortion.

It’s not just abortion I don’t write about but a range of topics like LGBTQ+ issues or euthanasia. Part of the problem is this: these topics are highly emotive, highly personal in experience and highly unique in experience.

Abortion is the one I’m mostly NOT writing about at the moment, even though it’s the topic most on my mind.

The laws concerning abortion have just been debated and changed in my state parliament. My Facebook feed has been full of emotionally charged posts about the law change. It has been so overwhelming I stopped looking at Facebook.

Then I feel guilty for not participating in a debate I do care about.

Here is my personal dilemma: I hate the idea of an unborn child 22 weeks gestation being aborted because I didn’t speak out. Equally, I would hate for a woman who has had an abortion to feel shamed and condemned because I did speak out.

And right now, I know some of my dear readers are yelling at me in outrage and may have already left this blog.

Those still reading perhaps share the same dilemma as me.

This is my main issue: I have not experienced an abortion.

I have not walked in the shoes of a woman who has had to face the complex reality of an abortion. Neither have I been the sister, mother, partner, or mother of the partner affected by abortion.

Same with LGBTQ+ issues. I am straight and so are my children and immediate family (at least that I know of). So I don’t feel I can speak out with any real credibility.

I do speak out publicly about women’s rights because I have experienced first hand, on multiple occasions, discrimination because I am a woman. I have been disadvantaged, disregarded and abused because I am a woman. I have also researched this topic over many years. On this issue I have cred. I have experience.

It is about now I argue with myself.

So Elissa, does that mean you wouldn’t speak out publicly about slavery or human trafficking because you don’t have first hand experience? This again is my dilemma, I know I would speak out, in fact I have. So how is this different?

This is the difference: While I do not have a personal experience with abortion, I do have ministry experience with abortion.  I have prayed with women who have wept primal sounds of grief over an abortion. It often has taken years of wrestling with shame to come to a place where they felt secure enough to even share it with one person. It was such a deep honour that they would share their grief with me.

I have observed their experience with abortion was fraught with complexities, with layers of emotional entanglements, a raw experience that left their souls vulnerable.  I fear if I speak out about abortion, their experience will be diminished to a sound bite. I fear entering the political arena of debate will over simplify and diminish the intensity of their experience.

I fear in speaking out publicly, I will inadvertently strip away the dignity and grace these women deserve as they privately heal.

So I stay silent.

I have prayed with a grandmother grieving the loss of a grandchild to abortion.

I also have prayed with women who are in horrific marriages because they married only because she was pregnant.

I have prayed for women who have struggled financially because they are single mum’s.

I have prayed with women who are infertile and would move heaven and earth to be able to adopt.

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I have prayed with mothers who secretly helped their Christian unmarried daughter get an abortion.

I have prayed with women who have become pregnant after a rape.

I have prayed with mothers of severely disabled children.

Each of these stories can be connected to the issue of abortion in some way.

And I feel a deep need to protect the dignity of each one of these women.

Then I argue with myself, well Elissa, wouldn’t it be a way to honour them if you did speak out? Perhaps, but I am not confident I could do it with complete grace and dignity. And that fear keeps me quiet. I don’t see that fear as wrong, I see it as a healthy fear.

Just as I see this dilemma- to speak or not to speak – as a healthy discomfort.

So I continue to wrestle with this issue: when do I go public? When do I risk being trolled? When do I risk being accused as judgmental or ignorant or any other harsh criticism?

For I know women who have chosen to speak out and it has cost them personally. Some receive death threats. But they keep speaking out because their conviction is so strong.

What I admire about those women I know, who have gone public with their convictions, is they speak from a place of honour and grace. I have never seen them name call, or be vicious or attack a person.  I applaud them.

They challenge me, come on Elissa, can you be courageous, can you be a woman of conviction?

Other times I see vigorous and stimulating public debate degenerate into nothing more that name calling and vicious attacks. No one seems humble or honest enough to examine their opinions. They simply dig in their heels and argue even more violently. I think of Paul’s advice to Timothy, “Do not have anything to do with foolish and stupid discussions, because you know they breed arguments” (2 Timothy 2:23).

I HATE it when it gets ugly.

I am outraged by Christians who blow up abortion clinics or shake hate placards at clinic entrances. I am outraged by pro-choice advocates who yell obscenities and death threats 5 cm from the face of those peacefully and gracefully protesting law changes.

I fear my own righteous passion could deteriorate into dangerous indignities and reckless hate. This fear keeps me silent in the public arena.

However, in my personal arena I do express my beliefs concerning abortion by signing petitions, engaging with lobbyists and by using my vote thoughtfully. I also have face to face conversations about abortion with people, in which I can fully engage honorably not just with their opinions but with their experiences and emotions.

But for speaking out publicly, I still struggle. I’m not sure I have found complete peace over this dilemma. Much as I fear trolling, becoming bitter or hurting someone, I fear apathy more.

So I will keep arguing with myself. I will keep feeling uncomfortable. I will keep wrestling. I will keep changing. I will keep doing this because there are many, many things I am not sure about. That doesn’t freak me out, that’s the challenge of life.

There is one thing however I am sure about: GRACE is always superior to judgement.

So until I’m sure about how to engage publicly with an issue, I will just keep choosing grace.

by Elissa Macpherson

author, speaker (on topics on which she has cred), lover of glitter and laughter.

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Grumpy Middle Aged Woman Slaps Blog Readers


I want to slap teenage boys whose pants are hanging so low their Bonds undies are inflated around their hips like a blow fish under attack.

I want to slap women with eyebrows that look like they’ve been drawn on by Picasso with a brown Disney felt pen.

I want to slap people who say (with a face like a prune), “You know those child sponsor charities just spend all your money on administration and nice cars”.

Seriously, I’m middle aged, grumpy and tired of bullpoo.

I wont actually slap anyone because I hate violence but I admit I do have to suppress the urge that bubbles up in me.

The older you get, the more real you get. Your tolerance for shallowness, cynicism, and botox infused selfies runs to zero. You think more about an authentic life. You think more about a meaningful death.

And so I have been thinking about what I’d like written on my grave stone.

Wife, Mother, Sponsor.

Sound schmaltzy? Really, does sponsor deserve to be in the same line as wife and mother?

Yep! I believe it is as profound.

Is this where you switch off because this blog is another one of thousands of pleas for sponsorship?

If you are about to switch off, just come closer for one minute.

SLAP! You deserve a slap! (metaphorically speaking off course)

Or as we call it in church circles, the laying on of hands till you are healed of the stupid.

Aggressive much – you bet! Ungracious – probably!

But I’m over 50 now and just don’t care if I upset your comfort with poverty. I’m tired of politeness being a barrier to desperate need. Your discomfort and offense don’t come close to feelings of despair and aching hunger that children in this world are experiencing as you read this.

I know, I’ve been to Cambodia in places poor beyond imagination.  The changes sponsorship bring is mind-blowingly fabulous. I’m frustrated because I cannot adequately describe the radical change it brings. Unless you’ve seen it first hand you can’t really grasp how incredible it is. You know I’m totally over bullpoo now – so trust me, I’m telling you straight, child sponsorship works, its a tangible miracle.

Sponsoring a child leaves a legacy beyond your life time and more profound than your life time. What the heck is life about if its not about profound legacy?

I know we all get weary of hearing about the overwhelming pain of those suffering in the third world.

Temporary weariness I can do, but I never ever want to become familiar, inoculated and comfortable with suffering.

I never want to say I’ve done enough. God help me if that is what could be written on my grave stone: “Elissa – she was nice and helpful but put a limit on compassion”. No way!


Indulge me as I share one of the most significant moments of my life- tombstone worthy.

When my eighteen year old son was on his gap year he worked casually at KFC. He mentioned a sponsorship charity to me and asked, “Mum, they’re legit right? They’re good right?”

“You bet son, why?”

“I just started sponsoring a little girl in Asia with them”.

I stopped for a moment. A mummy moment. My teenage boy, off his own volition, from his basic wage, CHOSE to take the time, to take the money, to make the life altering bigger-than-he-gets-right-now decision to sponsor a child.

“Wow, mate, that’s awesome. Is that working out OK because you aren’t really on a decent wage yet?”

Then he schooled me” “Mum, I’m your son. You always said that once you have a job you have a responsibility to share that with those who don’t have what you’ve got. I’ve got water, I’ve got a flat. I’ve got two minute noodles, I’ve got a phone – I’m good.”

Put that on my friggin’ grave stone people! (The first sentence, not the two minute noodle thing.)

I could stop this blog now at this feel good moment. But I’m throwing this “writing on your tombstone” moment back at you. Let’s get very, very real for a moment.

What do you want? Who do you want to be? What do you want your legacy to be?

I pray it’s sponsorship. Sponsorship prevents poverty, sponsorship prevents deathly disease, sponsorship prevents child marriages. Sponsorship’s bring hope. Sponsorship brings positive change. Sponsorship brings joy. Click on this link if you want to see it in action:https://vimeo.com/276783227

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If you want to sponsor a child, I highly recommend, like super dooper endorse Baptist World Aid as an agency. I traveled with them to Cambodia and was left humbled by their compassion, integrity, intelligence and the dignity afforded to the children with which they partner. They are an incredibly honest, effective and honorable organization.

Press on this link below and sponsor one of their beautiful children, literally change a community and make your own life more meaningful.

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Bless you and I promise to stop slapping you (metaphorically speaking).

by Elissa Macpherson

author, speaker, unashamedbly pushy about justice, wife, mother, sponsor

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The Christian “F” Bomb- Fem!n#sm!

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My friend and I just finished speaking at a conference when a woman approached. She said, “I really enjoyed that, except when your friend said Jesus was a feminist – there is no way He was a feminist!”

I replied that I disagreed. I explained that a feminist is a person who advocates for the equal opportunity and rights regardless of gender, and I believed Jesus embodied that in his life.

She earnestly looked at me and said, “But if you really knew what a feminist was you would not agree”.

I continued. “Well, what kind of feminist do you mean? Marxist feminist, lipstick feminist, liberal feminist, radical feminist?”

She looked at me as if I was talking gibberish and said, “You know – a real feminist!”

I realized we were talking about a single topic but coming from two very different places.

If feminism was the elephant in the room, I was pulling the tusk and she was pulling the tail.

I assume her definition of a feminist was an aggressive, man hating, abortion promoting, militant left-wing, scary woman with studded wristbands and army boots as weapons. In which case, I agree, I don’t think Jesus would have been this kind of feminist.

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This conversation showed me that any discussion about gender equality in Christian circles can be fraught with emotional bombs.

Step the wrong way with semantics and watch an explosion of anger and passion blow up. It’s a minefield of mixed definitions and a powder keg of perceptions and paradigms.

There are as many forms of feminism as there as many forms of Christianity.  To make broad sweeping statements about feminism would be like saying all Christians are rosary bead praying, tongue speaking, conservative voting, Calvinistic, tee-totaling, gun toting, homophobic, party poopers.

Diverse Forms of Feminism

In the same way, we can lump all feminists in the same box. Yet there are many different types of feminism. Different types include:

Socialist feminism which is influenced by Marxist ideology.

Liberal feminism seeks equality through political and legal reform.

Black feminism argues sexism, class oppression and racism are bound together.

French feminism pursues equality through literary and philosophical efforts.

Radical feminism want to dismantle the entire system because it is patriarchal.

This list is in no way exhaustive. They take different approaches and emphasize different underlying philosophies.

Diversity of  Leaders of the Feminist Movement

Even major leaders in the feminist movement are not homogeneous. If they were all at a dinner party together I’m sure the evening would end in loud and fervent debate. Imagine trying to form a cohesive group from this bullet list of prominent feminists.

-Mary Wollstonecraft:  1700’s, author of “The Vindication of the Rights of Women”,  philosopher, liberal, deist/Unitarian

-Catherine Booth: 1800’s, co-founder of the Salvation Army, fought for safe working conditions for women and children, Christian preacher

-Emmeline Pankhurst: early 1900’s, fought for the right to vote including using violent protests such as bombing churches

-Betty Friedan: wrote the “Feminine Mystique” in 1963, writer, journalist, Marxist Zionist Jew

-Germaine Greer: wrote “The Female Eunuch” in 1970, writer and academic, Catholic atheist and anarchist

-Naomi Wolf: wrote “The Beauty Myth” in 1990 author, journalist, Pulitzer prize winner, political adviser to Al Gore and Bill Clinton, liberal progressive.

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Here is another one for the list: Jesus Christ: 1st century, Jewish Rabbi, son of God, dismantled gender barriers by teaching and debating theology with women despite this being prohibited (John 4:19-25, Luke 10:39), fought for Judeo-legal rights of an alleged adulterous women (Luke 8:1-11), economically supported by women (Luke 8:3), took women as part of his mission team (Luke 8:1-2), interacted intimately with women regardless of race (John 4:27), promoted women as role models for faith and wisdom (Queen Sheba Matthew 12:42, Matthew 26;13).

Reading the above list of Jesus`s gender barrier breaking behaviours could we then define Jesus as a feminist? This would depend on how we define feminism.

How do we take a range of ideologies and synergise them into one simple defining statement? Perhaps in the same way Catholics, Protestants, Pentecostals, Evangelicals, Orthodox Christians could unify under the simple statement of belief,  that is: Jesus is God, that he died on the cross for our sins and he was resurrected from the dead so we can live eternally.

In the same way we then could pull together different schools of ideology and simply define feminism as a term, “used to describe a political, cultural or economic movement aimed at establishing equal rights and legal protection for women” (1).

Given this definition, I believe issues such as trafficking women and girls, domestic violence, preventing child marriages, exploitation of women in media and the full releasing of spiritual gifts in women would be high on the Christian feminist agenda.

Here is another interesting definition of feminism with a Christian bias. In 1914, The New York Times published this definition by women’s suffrage activist Carrie Chapman Catt:

“What is feminism? A world-wide revolt against all artificial barriers which laws and customs interpose between women and human freedom. It is born of the instinct within every natural woman’s soul that God designed her as the equal, co-worker, the comrade of the men of her family, and not as their slave, or servant, or dependent, or plaything”. (2)

I wonder if Jesus may define Christian feminism as something like this: Women are my sisters, my daughters. Love them as I do. They are made in my image. Treat them as you would treat me.

This definition, if fully embraced in action, would be a bomb of love that would blow apart gender injustice.

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By Elissa Macpherson: author, speaker, Jesus lover, injustice hater, coffee drinking, sequin wearing, beauty embracing God gurl


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  1. http://www.gender.cawater-info.net/knowledge_base/rubricator/feminism_e.htm
  2. https://www.bustle.com/articles/129886-what-does-feminism-mean-a-brief-history-of-the-word-from-its-beginnings-all-the-way

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Cómo tienen las mujeres un Dia Internacional.



El 8 de Marzo, FaceBook estaba lleno de publicaciones de la celebración del Día Mundial de la Mujer. Pero de vez en cuando aparecía una publicación diferente, comentarios con una dejo enojón, preguntando esto-

Porque lo hombres no tienen el Día Internacional del Hombre?

Esta es una buena pregunta. ¿Por qué es un día que fomenta la igualdad de género? ¿Parece que los hombres son tratados de manera desigual? Creo que hay una razón sólida: porque un niño no morirá cuando nazca porque es un niño. Porque 100 millones de niños no están “desaparecidos” del planeta (1). Porque la imagen de abajo es una madre, explicando en la película “It’s A Girl”, por qué estranguló a sus ocho hijas al nacer y las enterró en su jardín trasero en la India rural. Ella las mató porque nacieron niñas y ella quiere, no necesita, un niño.

La estrangule despues que nació

Tomado de http://www.itsagirlmovie.com
Porque incluso si ganó la lotería de nacimiento y no nació en un país del tercer mundo, las mujeres experimentan la vida de manera diferente a los hombres. Porque cada dos días es el Día Internacional de los Hombres. El Día Internacional de la Mujer es el único día del año en que las mujeres son el centro de atención. Cada dos días, los hombres son el foco.

Cada dos días los hombres los hombres tienen mayor representación política.

Desde enero 2017, solo 18.3 por ciento de los ministerios del gobierno en todo el mundo eran mujeres. A la fecha de junio de 2016, solo el 22,8% de todos los parlamentarios nacionales eran mujeres (2). Los hombres tienen una mayor voz política.

Cada dos días los hombres los hombres tienen mayor representación en negocios.

En Australia, los hombres tienen el 74.8% de todas las posiciones de la junta, a pesar de que las empresas con la capitalización de mercado más grande tienen la mayor proporción de mujeres miembros de la junta (3). En 2015, las mujeres ocuparon el 17.9% de los puestos de la junta en las compañías Fortune 1000 (4). Los hombres tienen más poder económico.

Cada dos días los hombres tienen la mayoría de voz en los medios sociales.

En Australia, la proporción de sala de redacción es de 70:30 reporteros de hombre a mujer (5). En 2017, las mujeres representaron apenas el 18% de los directores, escritores, productores, productores ejecutivos, editores y cineastas que trabajan en las 250 películas más taquilleras (6). Los medios están dominados por un punto de vista masculino.

Cada dos días los hombres dominan la tecnología.

En los U.S las mujeres forman el 51% de los trabajadores. Pero, solamente 29% de los trabajadores de Microsoft son mujeres, 31% en Facebook, y 30% en Apple y Google (7). Las mujeres tienen 11% de las posiciones ejecutivas en las Compañías Silicon Valley (8). Los hombres son factores dominantes en la tecnología.
Los hombres todavía dominan la política, negocios, media y la tecnología- las principales fuerzas en nuestra sociedad. En todo el mundo, los hombres dominan las principales áreas de poder e influencia. Incluso si son hombres que apoyan la igualdad de género y hacen activamente su parte para cambiar la discriminación de género, no son mujeres. No experimentan el mundo como una mujer.

Las Mujeres experimentan la vida de diferente forma.


Cada dos días 1 en 3 mujeres alrededor del mundo experimentan abuso sexual y violencia (9).

Cada dos días los hombres no están tratando con Harvey Weinstein o Don Burke de su mundo. Demasiadas mujeres sufren acoso y agresiones sexuales en su lugar de trabajo y en su hogar. Las investigaciones nos dicen que, “en promedio, una mujer a la semana es asesinada por su pareja actual o anterior, según el análisis más reciente de las estadísticas de homicidios en Australia” (10).

Cada dos días niñas y mujeres son más propensas a ser analfabetas y tienen niveles de educación más bajos.

A nivel mundial, 65 millones de niñas no asisten a la escuela (11). Hay 33 millones menos de niñas que niños en la escuela primaria (11). Casi dos tercios de los adultos analfabetos del mundo son mujeres (12). A pesar de que los estudios relacionan repetidamente el aumento de la educación de las niñas con el aumento de la calidad de vida no solo para las mujeres, sino para comunidades enteras (13).

Cada dos días las mujeres tienen menor paga que los hombres (14).

Dave Hughes, celebridad radiofónica popular de Melbourne, sufrió un recorte salarial como protesta cuando descubrió que su compañero en el aire, Kate Langbroek, recibió un 40% menos que él por EXACTAMENTE EL MISMO TRABAJO (15).

Cada dos días son acusadas de fastidiar y de hablar demasiado.

Aunque, en realidad, las mujeres saben que los hombres dominarán las conversaciones. La revista New York Times informa que, “los estudios académicos y las innumerables anécdotas dejan en claro que ser interrumpido, hablado, despedido o penalizado por hablar es casi una experiencia universal para las mujeres cuando son superadas en número por los hombres” (16).

Cada dos días las mujeres saben que su valor esta medido por su apariencia.

La mayoría de los cirujanos plásticos son hombres, muchos de sus pacientes son mujeres. En Australia, las mujeres pagarán más del doble de lo que los hombres pagan por el arreglo personal (17). El 13% de las mujeres mayores de 50 años participan en conductas de trastorno alimentario (18). Como dijo un periodista, “las mujeres están condicionadas, desde una edad temprana, a comprender que su apariencia es su moneda” (17).

Cada dos días, bebes niñas son matadas por ser niñas.

En Junio 2015 un padre Pakistaní mato a sus tres hijas. Explico que no quería gastar dinero educando a sus hijas (19). Mas niñas y mujeres han muerto en el pasado siglo 20 más que todos los hombres que murieron en las grandes batallas del siglo 20 simplemente por haber nacido mujer (20).

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Estas mujeres no murieron en una batalla ellas murieron al nacer, en el útero, abandonadas al nacer o asesinadas mientras hacían su vida diaria, asesinados SIMPLEMENTE PORQUE SON UNA MUJER.

En mi opinión, esta es una razón singularmente valiosa para celebrar el Día Internacional de la Mujer

Desde la introducción de la política de un solo hijo en 1979 en China, más de 30 millones de niñas han sido abortadas, asesinadas o abandonadas de forma selectiva. Deje que ese número se hunda en 30 millones (21). 30 millones de hijas, 30 millones de hermanas, 30 millones de potenciales científicos, autores, doctores, maestros, inventores. Son asesinadas por ninguna otra razón que las niñas se consideran una carga y porque las niñas tienen menos valor.

Algún país en el mundo tiene más de 30 millones de varones desaparecidos, asesinados simplemente porque eran niños?

Si hay, entonces, por supuesto, abogue por un Día Internacional del Hombre.

Pero no lo veo. Por favor, no me malinterpreten, solo porque defiendo el Día Internacional de la Mujer no significa que sea alguien que odia al hombre. Creo que los hombres son increíbles, creo que son tan fantásticos que incluso me casé con uno. Tengo dos hijos increíbles. Son humanos increíbles. No culpo a los hombres, creo que los buenos hombres son parte de la solución. Sé que los hombres tienen sus propias luchas. Sé que los hombres son más propensos a suicidarse y terminan en la cárcel. Sé que los niños serán secuestrados para ser niños soldados. Eso está más allá de lo trágico y devastador. Estos son problemas que merecen una gran atención y soluciones audaces.

Pero las palabras “Es un niño” simplemente no tienen el mismo efecto devastador en todo el mundo que “Es una niña”. Las Naciones Unidas han estimado que hasta 100 millones de mujeres están “desaparecidas”, sus vidas se consideran inútiles porque nacieron como niñas (22).

Esta es la razón por la que necesitamos un Día Internacional de la Mujer.

Para elevar el valor y la dignidad de las mujeres hasta que no sean asesinadas por ser una niña. Hasta que no les paguen menos, no les silencien menos, que representan más, la respeten más por ser mujer.

Por Elissa Macpherson
Conferencista, autor, bebedora de café, decidida y femenina, Amante de Jesús

las 3 palabras más mortales en el mundo… Es Una Nina

Imágenes de http://www.itsagirlmovie.com/ “Es Una Niña” es un película que cuenta historias detrás del homicidio por genero.

Traducido por: Lily Muir Misionera en Bolivia

How Come Women Get An International Day?




On March 8, Face Book was full of posts celebrating International Women’s Day. But every now and then a different sort of post popped up, posts with a grumpy vibe, asking this-

Why don’t men get an International Men’s Day?

This is a good question. Why is it on a day that encourages gender equality do men seem to get treated unequally?

I believe there is a solid reason: Because a boy child will not be killed when he is born because he is boy. Because 100 million boys aren’t “missing” from the planet (1).

Because the image below is a mother, explaining in the film “It’s A Girl”, why she strangled her eight baby daughters at birth and buried them in her back garden in rural India. She killed them because they were born girls and she wants, no needs, a boy.

Taken from www.itsagirlmovie.com

Because even if you won the birth lottery and weren’t born in a third world country, women experience life differently from men.

Because on every other day it is International Men’s Day. International Women’s Day is the one day of the year that women are the focus. On every other day, men are the focus.

On every other day men have a greater political representation.

As of January 2017, only 18.3 per cent of government ministers globally were women. Only 22.8 per cent of all national parliamentarians globally were women as of June 2016 (2). Men have a greater political voice.

On every other day men have a  greater representation in business.

In Australia, men hold 74.8% of all board positions even though the companies with the largest market capitalization have the highest proportion of female board members (3).  In 2015, women held 17.9% of the board seats on Fortune 1000 companies (4). Men have more power economically.

On every other day men are the major voice in the media.

In Australia, the newsroom ratio is 70:30 male-to-female reporters (5). In 2017 women accounted for just  18% of directors, writers, producers, executive producers, editors, and cinematographers working on the top 250 grossing films (6). The media is dominated by a male point of view.

On every other day men dominate technology.

In the U.S women make up 51% of the work force. However, only 29% of Microsoft’s employees are women, 31% at Face Book, and 30% at Apple and Google (7). Women only hold 11% of executive positions in Silicon Valley Companies (8). Men are the dominant drivers of technology.

Men still dominate politics, business, media and technology- the major forces in our society. Across the world men dominate major areas of power and influence. Even if they are men who support gender equality and actively do their part to change gender discrimination- they are not women. They do not experience the world as a woman.

Women experience life differently.



On every other day 1 in 3 women across the globe experience sexual abuse and violence (9).

On every other day men are not dealing with the Harvey Weinstein’s or Don Burke’s of their world.  Too many women experience sexual harassment and assault in their workplace and in their home. Research tells us that, “On average, one woman a week is murdered by her current or former partner, according to the most recent analysis of homicide statistics in Australia” (10).

On every other day girls and women are more likely to be illiterate and have lower levels of education.

Globally, 65 million girls are not attending school (11). There are 33 million fewer girls than boys in primary school (11). Nearly two-thirds of the world’s illiterate adults are women (12). Even though studies repeatedly link the increased education of girls with the increase in quality of life not just for women but for whole communities (13).

On every other day women are paid less than men (14).

Popular Melbourne based radio celebrity Dave Hughes took a pay cut as a protest when he discovered his on air partner, Kate Langbroek was bring paid 40% less than him for EXACTLY THE SAME JOB  (15).

On every other day women are accused of being nags and talking too much.

Yet, in reality women know men will dominate conversations.  The New York Times reports that, “Academic studies and countless anecdotes make it clear that being interrupted, talked over, shut down or penalized for speaking out is nearly a universal experience for women when they are outnumbered by men” (16).

On every other day women knows her worth is measured by her appearance.

Most plastic surgeons are men, most of their patients are women.  In Australia, women will pay over double what men pay on personal grooming (17). 13% of women over 50 engage in eating disorder behaviors (18). As one journalist put it, ” Women are conditioned, from a young age, to understand that their appearance is their currency”(17).

On every other day, girl babies are being killed for being a girl.

In June 2015 a Pakistani father killed his three daughters. He explained that he did not want to waste money educating the girls (19). More girls and women have died in the last 20th century than all the men killed in all the major battles of the 20th century simply for being born a girl (20).

gendercide stats
Image taken from https://www.belfercenter.org/sites/default/files/legacy/files/IS3303_pp007-045.pdf


These women were not killed in battle they were killed at birth, in utero, abandoned at birth or killed as they went about their daily life, killed SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY ARE A GIRL.

In my opinion, this is a singularly worthy reason to have International Women’s Day.

Since the introduction of the one child policy in 1979 in China, over 30 million baby girls have been gender selectively aborted, killed or abandoned. Let that number sink in- 30 million (21). 30 million daughter, 30 million sisters, 30 million potential scientists, authors, doctors, teachers, inventors. They are killed for no other reason than girls are considered a burden and because girls have less worth.

Does any country in the world have over 30 million missing males, murdered simply because they were boys? 

If there is, then by all means advocate for an International Men’s Day.

But I don’t see it. Please, do not get me wrong, just because I am advocating for International Women’s Day doesn’t mean I’m a man hater. I think men are amazing, I think they are so fantastic I even married one. I have two amazing sons. They are amazing humans. I don’t blame men, I believe good men are part of the solution. I know men have their own struggles. I know men are more likely to commit suicide and end up in jail. I know boys will be kidnapped to be child soldiers. That is beyond tragic and devastating. These are issues that deserve loud attention and bold solutions.

But the words, “It’s a boy” just don’t have the same devastating effect across the globe as, “It’s a girl”. The United Nations has estimated that up to 100 million females are “missing”, their lives considered worthless because they were born a girl (22).

This is why we need an International Women’s Day. 

To raise the value and dignity of women until they are not murdered for being a girl. Until they are not paid less, silenced less, represented more, respected more for being a woman.

By Elissa Macpherson

Speaker, author, coffee drinker, feisty and feminine, Jesus lover


Image from www.itsagirlmovie.com/  “It’s A Girl” is a film telling the stories behind gendercide.


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  15. Australian Women’s Weekly January 2018 p.22  Published by Bauer Media Ltd.
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  18. http://www.anad.org/get-information/about-eating-disorders/eating-disorders-statistics/
  19. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3117167/Pictured-Three-little-girls-strangled-death-father-Pakistan-didn-t-want-waste-money-education.html
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